The most popular New Year’s resolution, year after year, is to live a healthier life. That means to eat better, exercise more, and lose weight (which really means “lose fat” to most people).
Yet only 9% of Americans keep their resolutions.
The 91% who give up don’t last long, either. Most people abandon their resolutions on Jan. 19, which has earned that day the nickname “Quitter’s Day.” Nearly 80% of people quit by February, according to Forbes.
Goals are one of Molly Hendryx’s favorite topics. Hendryx is a powerlifter, coach, and founder of Body Project Fitness. She holds 22 USPA powerlifting records, including being a national champion. So, she knows a thing or two about setting goals and following through with them.
Molly Hendryx at a powerlifting meet. Courtesy photo
“As we approach the New Year, a lot of people set resolutions then fall off rather quickly. It's why gyms are packed in January and not as much after March,” Hendryx says. “One of the issues with resolutions is they tend to be very broad, too big, there's not a deeply personal connection or why for them, and people don't take the time to create a roadmap for achieving their resolutions.”
Goals – whether at the beginning of a new calendar year or any time of year – can have the same issues. But they don’t have to, Hendryx says.
When she works with clients on setting goals, here’s what she recommends:
Set clear goals.
Hendryx advises her clients to set goals that are clear, realistic, and backed with a belief in yourself.
In one study, 35% of people who didn’t meet their New Year’s resolutions failed because they didn’t set realistic goals. One in 10 said they set too many resolutions (i.e. their focus was not clear). Best to focus on one goal at a time.
You may have heard about setting “SMART” goals, and Hendryx echoes that, too. SMART stands for specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound.
Create a plan.
There are goals. Then there are systems – the way to get there. A goal without a system (or plan) is still just an intangible hope. A system without a goal may get you moving, but you may not end up exactly where you wanted to. You need both. Research shows you’re two to three times more likely to stick to a goal if you have a specific plan (when, where, how) for how to achieve it.
Know your “why.”
This piece is huge to Hendryx. She calls it the “soul of the goal.”
When setting any resolution, know the true reason why you care about it. For example, a common goal is to lose fat. But why is that important? To feel better. Why? To have more energy. Why?
“We just keep going down that important rabbit hole until we hit something personal like ‘because I want to be able to play at the park with my kids,’ or ‘because I want to feel connected to my spouse and stop pushing them away because I’m uncomfortable with how I look,’” Hendryx says.
Now it’s personal. And to not achieve it hurts enough that you’re willing to get out of your comfort zone to work toward it.
“Motivation is unfortunately temporary and unreliable. Connecting to your goals gives them a deep-rooted purpose. And having your ‘why’ statement in front of you is a way to remind yourself why you started so you can keep going,” Hendryx writes in her manual, the “Badass Bombshell Bootcamp.”
Make micro-goals that are habit-based.
Instead of setting one massive goal that feels overwhelming, look for the low-hanging fruit choices you can make to inch you closer to your goals.
“This builds momentum and confidence to take the next step – a bigger step – and keep going,” Hendryx says.
Likewise, make the actions as easy as possible, Hendryx says. Set a goal for the week. Then ask yourself on a scale of 1-10 how likely you are to follow through with it. If it’s not a nine of 10, what tweaks do you need to make to the goal to raise the likelihood of success? How can you increase your follow-through?
In other words, set a goal you can stick to even on your worst day – no matter what. Master that. Then add on. Keep building with small bricks.
“Tie one habit at a time to a habit you’re already doing, and that helps with creating healthy habits,” Hong says.
“Atomic Habits” calls this habit-stacking. For example, if you want to do 10 push-ups a day and you already shower every day, you can link the new habit to the existing habit by deciding to do 10 push-ups every day before you shower.
For more info on what Clear says about goal setting, check out some of his writing on the topic.
Make it fun.
Do what feels good, Hendryx says. If you hate running, don’t set a goal to run a 10K. The entire process of reaching the goal is going to suck. But if your goal is to improve your cardio health and you enjoy HIIT-style workouts, do that instead.
It’s helpful to build into your plan an accountability buddy to call you out on your BS and encourage you when you want to quit, Hendryx says. Hire a coach or trainer or ask a friend or partner to support you – maybe even lift with you. One study found that 22% of people who failed to achieve their resolutions said they didn’t have the right support.
An extension of accountability is to create an environment that is supportive of your goals. Strategically align your environment with the life you want to live; make it easy to succeed. If getting to the gym is half the battle, build a home gym in your garage, basement, or unused bedroom. If junk food sets off a spiral, minimize your exposure to it (don’t fill your cupboards with chips).
Write it down.
Write your goals down and put them where you can see them: on a mirror, phone lock screen, sticky note on the fridge, or in the car, Hendryx says. This isn’t just a cutesy move; it’s neuroscience. People who clearly describe their goals are 1.2 to 1.4 times more likely to achieve those goals, according to an article in Forbes.
Set your systems, but also stay open to other potential avenues of achieving your goal. You will continue learning along the way. So, stay open to expanding or reworking the systems when you gather new information.
For example, if you set out to lose fat by doing a ton of cardio, you may soon learn building muscle is a vital component of that. This may require you to change your plans and let go of the number on the scale, Hendryx says.
Measure your progress.
Data is powerful. In fact, 33% of people who failed their resolutions in one study said they didn’t keep track of their progress.
The scale is not the only way to measure change. Take progress photos. Track the weight you can move or how long/fast you can complete a challenge.
There are so many ways to measure progress – but remember, strength and any kind of change are not linear. It’s normal to plateau sometimes or appear to be sliding back. Keep going. A plateau is often a sign that you’re about to level up – you just have to keep going.
Celebrate the small wins. “Rewards should be frequent and should not contradict the goal, but should enhance your joy in the goal achievement,” Hendryx says.
Train your brain.
To achieve a goal, you have to believe it’s actually possible and work through some of the limiting beliefs that have held you back in the past. Beware of thoughts that start with phrases like “I can’t,” “I never,” “I always,” and replace those with affirming thoughts like “I can,” “I do,” “I love to,” and “I am becoming,” Hendryx says.
Part of this belief process is not lying to yourself, she says. There will be obstacles.
“Plan for them, know your weaknesses, and plan for a realistic work-around,” she says.